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[ClingingToHope]

Lucky makes a good point. If you are struggling financially but you won't file for a D then that's your choice. There's nothing forcing him to help other than his conscious -- and he doesn't appear to have one.

You've read my situation and know how much I've been struggling. But I've read a lot of other situations where things improved between the divorcees after the process was finished because everything is spelled out. Each knows what is expected of them.

I'm believing that's what will happen to me. Right now both STBXW are doing what we think is best to protect our financial futures. I don't agree with what she's doing and I'm guessing she doesn't agree with what I'm doing. But now we no longer trust each other so this is the process to figure it out.

I think I've been more than fair with STBXW, but in our brief D interactions all I've gotten from her is that she's angry I'm not paying for home improvements to sell the house and how broke she is.

I understand your anger. And you are right, it isn't fair. This is probably just a down day for you because I haven't sensed anger destroying your life.

If the anger keeps building though then perhaps you should try reading "Forgiveness is a choice." Some day, maybe not soon, but some day you'll have to let a lot of this go or else S is going to see the anger in you and have it pass on to him.