I agree with Soxfan ... my H does that a lot; taking things practically out of my hands when I am still trying to figure whatever out. He thinks he is helping me (and he is), but he is also not allowing me the time when I want to hand it over. So, no helping out with the hobby except to listen and validate.
It does kinda sound like she's DB'ing. She is trying to GAL of her own, just like you got one (the one you were worried you may have to give up). Don't now assume she doesn't want you, Future.
Me:57 H:52 M:28 Got another lawyer last year and filed. D35,S/D twins28,D22 EA4/04 End? Who knows? "Life is like a mirror. Smile at it and it smiles back at you." — Peace Pilgrim