Yes we do. It is how we deal with them that define who we ARE. Just remember that.
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but are people programmed for this?
Very interesting question lola…Were our spouse programmed for this? I don’t know…what I do know is this…that all things in life happen for a reason. It may be a reason that WE do not agree with. I also believe in my heart that out of every difficult situation is a positive. A positive that we do not always see. In my case, I often hope and pray that from all of this…my W can become the person that she wants to be – even if that person is no longer with me.
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Why is it that 2nd and 3rd marriages have even less of a success rate? Is it really because people don't learn? Is it really because of the issues people bring forward?
BINGO! Yes IMO – we bring forth all of our issues. We bring forth all of our hurt. We expect SOMEONE else to understand. We rely on, depend on, and become hooked on someone else without ever really accepting that all of us are individuals. This is why it is soooo important for you to focus on your issues (an me to focus on mine) – cause this is the only thing we have control over.
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and we are just trying to explain away our failed relationships with anything we can grab hold of?
Relationships require TWO people. People by there nature are different. Are unique – no two alike. So maybe you are right…maybe we are just using MLC as some sort of an excuse. Either way, the failure of a relationship should NOT be an excuse to not be the BEST YOU CAN BE. This…is what we should all strive for.
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I know- I am a soggy diaper right now...just feeling a bit discouraged.
First off, you hurt – ya gonna feel like sh*t – it is to be expected. You know what though….you really are in control of how long you feel this way. I am not saying rush – no – I am saying feel it.
The discourage comes from an expectation. An expectation that someone else was suppose to live up to WHAT YOU wanted. Let go of this expectation and watch how your feelings change. Once again, not to say that you will not be sad – nope. What I am saying is trust yourself, expect from you, stay true to YOU and sit back and enjoy the life that YOU want.
Oh….and this sh*t is hard so be gentle on yourself. Time really is your friend.
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It is just one of those days.
And tomorrow is another day - so what are YOU going to do to make it better than today. Me? Well I'm gonna enjoy the sun driving in my jeep with the top down - yeah! Find that thing that makes you happy lola- find it girl. It is really in you. Don't be afraid to give it a try.
Que dios te bendiga, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
