Making progress and reconnecting.....ayieee

[koliver0821]

By the way. thats how little she actually cared of me at the time. She was appearing transparent as she would chat on facebook in front of me while the affair was going on. I mean how stupid could she be if shes going to have a relationship in front of me.

Well I guess you already know the answer to that one. I was the stupid one. I said that he was the predator. I do believe that, but I dont forget for one second that my wife may have been one too......

Thats when you have worked on forgiveness and SO HAS SHE. She needs to forgive you for the faults that you have. You have to be able to forgive her for her faults. Two to tango as they say. You also have to be willing to forgive her for the affair. That my friend will take some time and help from others. (church, therapist, etc...)

Also dont forget for one second that your MIL was complicit in this affair. Your wife told her of her feelings. She didnt set a very good example of honesty if she couldn't get her daughter to act in a proper way.