Quote: Anyway, I saw yesterday what my H meant about being ignored. My H fixed dinner for us last night and sat at the TV to eat with my bro and me. My bro wolfed it down without a word and left for the study to get on the computer in about 10 minutes. I need to talk to him: even if he cannot see my H, he could be polite...
Awesome!!! First, you're able to see what he's talking about. That has to make him feel better that you see it's not all just his viewpoint on the situation.
Your brother may not have been trying to ignore your H, but the end result is that he did. If he's in your house, he can be polite!
Quote: I intended to talk to my H about it, but I've been too sick to do anything. Had 103F fever this am... feel lousy...
Even if it's not a big conversation, just mention that you saw an example of what he's talking about, and that you saw it the same way. That will help take away some of his feelings that you're taking sides with your brother.
Quote: Positives for 11/16/03: 1. H fixed dinner and sat to eat and watch TV with bro and me 2. We snuggled all night 3. He fixed me breakfast this morning (with 2 Tylenols) and got in the protective mood 4. Said ILY before going to work
Babysteps! More olive branches! More signs that he's working on things also! WooooHooooo!!!!
and got in the protective mood
