I agree with Coach that it's healthy for her to have a hobby that's hers.
however, I disagree on the part of asking how can I help and giving her hiking stuff. (Sorry Coach)
Let me explain.
She wants space. She is taking up hiking to have a hobby of her own. If he steps in and gives her stuff, helps, whatever.... it's not her own-it's now shared. And it's not having space, he's now involved.
My H is like that. I ask for help or share an idea and he's taking over- assuming he's helping or being involved.... it's like the MIL that comes for a visit and rearranges your house and is suggesting paint colors. What it does is just make me feel less like me and less in control of me.
She clearly states that she feels "overwhelmed by 'your' or 'our' life. It seems very obvious and I feel like a dolt. "
You need to step back from whatever hobby she chooses. Make positive comments ("I'm glad you had a great hike", "the lake sounds beautiful") only when she shares with you.... leave out the whole "wish I could have seen it too" or whatever....
