Year 3: The Long and Winding Road

[ImprovedRomeo]

Personally, I don't 'want' a young chick but I'm not totally against it either. Some younger girls are pretty smart and mature...they tend to be more so than guys in general. Like when I think back to the girls I dated 10 years ago, they were probably as mature as I am now.

Having said that anyone within a 10 year range is fair game to me. Personally my range would be 29-39 but it's not set in stone, it's not a scientific range either. If the girl takes care of herself and normal I'm good.

Honestly though the more I think about it the more I fear dating someone in this age group because of some stories I've heard.

[DaddyLongShanks]

Stupid... StupidRomeo,

Young is young. They may be mature at the time, but you never know if they are going to have a mid-life thing or trying to "find themself", etc. Some people who have been calm and good all their life, may be a huricane for 5 to 10 years of their life someone in the middle. You don't want it to be on you. I'm the poster boy for that one, not that my current spouse was stable and mature for her age, but that she was totally into me and I never thought she would pull away and do the things she did - especially in that much of it either opposed me, betrayed me and/or set me back in time and money.

Nothing wrong with an older chick. The younger ones do short runs with, not sure I'm trying to attach to it.

[kat727]

So is the guy with a young chick going through his own MLC? Or what? I am using a personal experience...his wife was his age, his girlfriend after the D was about his age and then wham miss 29 year old with 2 young kids! His Dad had a stroke last year but seems to get along fairly well and his oldest(20) daughter is married, his middle child is 18 and heading off to college. His "baby" just turned 16 last month.

Maybe I am grasping at straws. Just don't get it.

kat

[karen43]

Yes, imo he is definitely going through an MLC! I think anytime you're dating someone half your age or thereabouts...Classic. And wii, I just started the adversity book last night! I've only read about 3 pages so far though....

[whatisis]

And wii, I just started the adversity book last night! I've only read about 3 pages so far though....

Wow, me too! I'm on page 29. I found this interesting on p. 23
"...adversity, regardless of the source, is God's most effective tool for deepening your faith and commitment to Him. The areas in which you are experiencing the most adversity are the areas in which God is at work. When someone says, "God is not doing anything in my life," my response is always, "so then, you don't have any problems?" Why? Because the best way to identify God's involvement in your life is to consider your response to adversity. God uses adversity, regardless of the source. But your response to adversity determines whether or not God is able to use it to accomplish His purpose."

[kat727]

So what is the guys take on the situation I described? I think it is MLC to some degree. I honestly think we all question our own mortality at some point and focus on being younger in some ways if possible.

Just looking for insight. kat

[whatisis]

I'm no expert but it could be MLC. We all go through periods where we feel our mortality is limited. When young you tend to feel there's always a future, too many years ahead to count. So, by going for younger women that may give the feeling that he's young again, but who really knows!

[ImprovedRomeo]

I don't know if it's MLC, I've seen some guys (not a lot) with much older women too. Or perhaps some people just don't believe in the age, race, religion gap- love is blind they say...I say if that's the case why do us men prefer the lights on?

[kat727]

Hey I know age is a number. I don't look at myself and say I am 45, boy the clock is ticking, got a get a move on sort of thing. I want to share my life with someone who can get "me". I want them to understand the references I make, the stories of my past adventures and misadventures.

Chances are that someone who is in their late 20's hasn't raised a 17 year old and can understand what those challenges are. Chances are they haven't had a long term relationship of 21 years and have a clue what that entails. Chances are they haven't made several misteps and learned how to correct for them. A lot of that, comes from age and experience.

A hard thing for me to get is that not everyone thinks the way I do. All that stuff I just said is important to me but may not matter at all to Joe Blow down the street. So I guess I need to buck up, let him feel good about being with his youngin(as he described her) and keep on trucking a long.

kat

[BeingMe]

his youngin(as he described her)

I find this a little creepy.