Do I let her know that via text next time she calls? Do not call me again until you have left your husband?
Nope.. Let her WONDER.. Just drop off the face of the earth to her for now..
You are building up for a speech here in a short while. You have to set the table for your speech that you are going to give her when you next talk to her... First you have to ignore her for awhile...
Then... The speech should go something like this after she FINALLY talks to you...
"You know, I have taken some time to do some thinking.. and here is what I have decided. I do NOT date or want to be with a married woman. PERIOD. You are married. So, I want you to leave me alone and stop calling, texting or contacting me in any way shape or form. I wouldn't want a man to do that to me when I am married and I won't do it to another man. It isn't RIGHT.... Now, I am going to hang up. Take care"
THAT is what you need to do... You do NOT tell her "don't call me until you leave your husband" That is weak. You WANT her to think, feel and believe that she has now dug her own grave and has lost you because she is married. Don't worry. IF.. and I do mean IF.. IF she loves you in the right way, she WILL divorce him. It will then leave you in a good position because of the way you handled it. Stay away from married women. Run the other way..
Then you have to wait it out. IF she loves you then she will divorce him. It isn't up for negotiation. It IS the right thing to do and she will secretly respect you for it. AND you will respect yourself. Don't put up with that nonsense. NEVER mess with a married woman. NEVER.
