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Yeah, Mr Bond, really nothing has changed, she is still the same, and I am still being an idiot. Neither one of us are changing our ways just empty promises. She told me to go on, although I don't think she wants me to, maybe she does, and I keep hanging on to something that is probably dead. I just switch back in forth from blaming her to myself.

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Stop contacting her. As Mr Bond said, quit focusing on the past...move on. She has already married someone else, I'd let her go. But....If you really want her back, she has to come to you. Quit forcing it on her.

You need to GAL and do the 180's. Improve yourself and get the "bad" out of you. If you change yourself, not only she will notice, but every other woman that is around you. Bet the catnip for all the kitty's out there.


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It was crazy to send her money wasn't it. It is not the money that matters to me I have it. I am just surprised that she would ask and then surprised that I would send it to a married women. But, I am not contacting her. She is calling me and I am responding. Should I just ignore the calls, and then for how long. I was just going to let the calls go to voice mail. She probably won't call until she needs something. I can't believe that was my best friend and lover and how I want to talk to her so bad right now and I am not suppose to talk to her. People are crazy. It is the right thing in this situation but it justs seems crazy to get the girl you must leave them alone.

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What part about not responding don't you get? confused

Goal- Par will not respond to any communication from X today.

She's using you. She's married to someone else. You are enabling her drug habit. You need to work on yourself.

You ever give golf lessons to someone who won't take your advice, won't practice and then whines about their swing? It's frustrating. You have to take responsiblity for your actions.


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Let it go to voice mail. Don't call back just because she called you. Wait for her to do something, don't keep making the first move.

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Do something as in leave her husband I am thinking and assuming is what you guys mean?

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Was she fooling around with this "husband" while she was with you?

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Do I let her know that via text next time she calls? Do not call me again until you have left your husband?

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When you say using me which she is do you think she really knows that she is using me or just unconsciencely doing it with the thought that we are going to get back together someday anyhow. Because I really believe that she thinks that but I might be being stupid again. Like her telling me she is not going to change her drivers licence.

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No, she wasn't we broke up, she met him and they got married after 5 days. She couldn't have known him but why would that matter?

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