and what if I do not want a divorce I am just supposed to go along with it Like I do ??
He thinks that's the only solution. I'm sure you validated his feelings and essentially you need to drop the rope. I know it's hard, it took me awaile to do so, but once you do you could start building a healthy R.
Right now the things you are doing are pursuing.
Let go and live life for you and your kids.
I found out doing so is attractive. ( I'm looking in your direction Coach:))
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