Rlay, My wife does the same thing to me. She asked me if any women at the healthclub have said anything to me. (About losing weight or looking better because I look 15 years younger-so I have been told) I told her "Several women have commented on how good I look but Im not interested in any of them". The next day she asks "Y'know the women that noticed you?" I said "Yes?" "Can u tell me their names?" I responded no. What she wants, is to be able to tell all of her "get a divorce buddies" He has a girlfriend already so it is a good thing I went through with this. It is guilt for the A they are having because they can't stand it. Can't speak for your H but I see justifying all his crap so he can ride guilt free.
