My email, etc... was probably a mixed approach as Allen says, which may not be what is best for you. As I mentioned, I didn't know about DBing, Exposing, or anything when I went through all of that: I only knew about Dobson (thank God!)
I just mention it as your approach to upcoming conversations, etc... may need to be different. Allen or Puppy could help you with the exposing because that WILL require some different actions that I no nothing about really.
My hope in helping is that I give you an idea of the big picture: of what loving toughness looks like - of showing self respect, etc... I certainly don't want to confuse you!
