After a short text convo about the kids holiday schedule I ended the convo with, "later chica." and she responded with a text smiley face. I think she liked it.
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
After a short text convo about the kids holiday schedule I ended the convo with, "later chica." and she responded with a text smiley face. I think she liked it.
I won't be quite as blunt as Gnosis, but I agree with him. As I have said before, this is very much like the stuff my W started doing too, but until your W stops the games and just comes out and clearly indicates she's done with OM and she doesn't want to lose you, you need to embrace the "Whatever! Who cares?" attitude. Live your life, have fun, and maintain a massive wall between you and her.
V1 you were pursuing (again). You sent a flirty message "later chica" ... what where you expecting in reply from XW? "later hot stud" ??? She was being polite. Plain and simple. Nothing more to it.
Instead you fell back into the same old cycle of: "I think she liked it." ... Gee, gosh, willy-whiskers -- is that an opening I see?"
Ergo my response above. Future, his XW is not playing games. She has moved on, its V1 playing games and setting himself up for disappointment.
M:11 | T:12 | Status: Married 4C's of WAS communication: Cool, Calm, Collected and CONFIDENT
Future, his XW is not playing games. She has moved on
Now you're doing the mind reading Gnosis! We don't know what your W is thinking inside v1olin, but trying to figure it out will keep you trapped in a miserable place. She RESPONDED to a flirty comment from you. That's waaaay too easy, and therefore means little. Not until your W truly feels your loss will she know how much, or how little, you mean to her. Stop the flirty comments, and go back to a civil, business only R.
RED I KNEWWWW you had to be a writer! I love the way you put words together and tell stories! Yes, what type of stuff do you write? (sorry for the hijack, Violin!)
You're SO sweet!
I write business how-to books and sell them from my website. I'd tell you the name, but would rather remain...[dun, dun, dun] INCOGNITO!
Thanks for the input guys, I always do appreciate it.
A flirty comment? Yeah, I guess it was. A very minor backslide. Mindreading? I sent that message because that is me and I do not care what the response was. I did not respond after her smiley face. And really, I don't know why I am even on here defending myself?
Me 35 Wife 34 Two daughters 8 years and 3 years Bomb 3/30/09 W filed 4/16/09 We met in'92 married in 2000 Divorce final
Violin, sometimes I don't post stuff because I don't care to hear everyone's opinion, lol! BUT I find myself freely sharing mine on others' posts....it's like we all get a "free card" or something.
of course we are here to support each other, but do you know what I mean?
me,34 exH,34 S,16 months S:3/31/09-left for OW started DBing 10/09 d final: sometime 10/10 current: http://www.divorcebusting.com/forums/ubbthreads.php?ubb=showflat&Number=2022856&page=1 met in 2004
