The stuff from a wayward spouse is akin to the ridiculous stories teenage boys tell teenage girls so they will have sex with them :
If we don't have sex it will fall off.
If we don't have sex, I won't be able to love you.
If we don't have sex, I will end up in hospital.
if we don't have sex, you won't love me.
If we don't have sex, I will get migraines.
if we don't have sex, it will turn green.
LMAO!!
Allen, you are SO wise! This is EXACTLY what it's like!
When you're a teenage girl in the throws of first passion, you believe ANYTHING your boyfriend tells you because you "love" him. He couldn't possibly lead you astray or have a hidden agenda....right? (HA,HA,HA!)
This is the same thing. But instead of trying to get INTO your pants, the WS is desperate to get out of the marriage. Throw some cold water on her, stat! She needs to cool off!
Originally Posted By: Allen A
This HURRY to get OUT Of the house QS is a FANTASY of hers to escape how miserable she feels.
Your wife has attached HER misery to YOU.. That's ALL... And it will take several weeks of therapy to BREAK that attachment and have her gradually take ownership of it and STOP LYING and STOP RUNNING.
If she "knew" she was "done" with the marriage 18 months ago but was afraid to act until recently, she's been talking herself into how bad it is for probably two years now -- it ain't gonna stop on a dime. Let her get her own apartment, make her own mistakes, and grow up.
I know - easier said than done. But this is HER journey to take, QS. You can't do it for her. She's not listening and she doesn't want your help.
Like Allen said, it's just like those teenagers who thinking moving out is the answer and there's no talking them out of it...until they realize that all the money they were spending on fun stuff like games, clubs, electronics, etc., now has to go for rent, groceries, and gas. Not so fun. As my dad used to say, "My house, my rules. Your house, your bills." Reality bites!
Your wife will learn that soon enough. Just stay away from her so you don't have to see it.
