Wow, FM, I'm glad to see I'm not the only one who's brain goes in a hundred different directions at once trying to analyze all of this!
Seriously though, doesn't everyone of these sitch's come down to communication or lack thereof?
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It strikes me that our separation has been so much like our marriage. STBXH, the INTJ, has masterminded an entire plan in his head...and utterly failed to communicate it to me for six months. Yes, his plan is essentially honourable and well-intentioned, yet the fact that I was supposed to assume all this after enduring months of (mostly scowling) silence from STBXH just doesn't compute.
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In our marriage, STBXH wanted me to assume good intentions, commitment, and even love, on his part without necessarily demonstrating either through his actions and words.
We forget to tell each other what is important and assume that, since we have been together for so long, the other person must know how we feel. Looking back, I realize nothing could be further from the truth.
I wish I was at the place that you are as far as being friends with stbx. I have told mine that we would be civil for the kids sake but friendship was out of the question. Maybe that will change. I don't think it will.
Anyway, enjoy your work, love your kids and catch up on your sleep. I continue to look up to you and the way you handle yourself. I'm not just saying that either.
