Yep, that's the dilmena we all face. Our spouse will turn around and take ownership of some of their own problems before they jump onto the sex bandwagon...
Just don't think this is about YOU.. she says she wanst to get away from YOU...
SHe wants to get away from the memory of bad feelings she has and a life that isn't working for her... Running away from you won't accomplish this...
You need to let that blame bounce off you... YOu keep taking it to heart... ABM is just counterproductive thinking...
The fact that she's willing to take ANYONE is crystal clear that YOU aren't the problem... It's crystal clear that SHE is the one with a problem.
All addicts are compulsive people are handled in teh same way.. you offer them help and hope for the best... Don't ENABLE any further... that whole HOUSE was enabling her... You were doing the work and footing most of the bills and that allowed HER to pursue compusions and addictions...
The closer to reality she gets the moer she's going to take ownership of her problems.
