SG, the 180 confusion surfaced again last night and I think I figured it out.
My D spilled something and rather than just clean it up, I asked her to come sit with me. It took her a minute as she was scared of a time-out or spanking (Don't spank me,Daddy- an odd thing to say because we don't spank her. Expression must have come from the dayhome) I calmly told her if it's too heavy to carry, just ask daddy for help. I'm not mad just disappointed.
It was a really refreshing, warm yet powerful mental state.
