What do you say/do/think when your H says he doesn't think he can be happy with you? This is the MOST important things for him..
SD,
My H has said that to me too. After reasoning, pleading and crying, I've come to realise that there is nothing i can do or say that would change H mind overnight. In fact, the consensus here is that the more we try, the more we're pushing them away.
I'm not an expert in DB'ing and have no success story to tell, but here's my understanding of the DB'ing approach.
Since we can only control our own actions, DB approach is to change ourselves, in the hope that by our actions our H/W would come to the realisation that they can be happy with us. However, if they don't come to that realisation, then at least we have improved ourselves so that we will become a better person in the process.
As for our feelings during our ordeal, I understand the DB approach is not to act on our feelings, which often would not be pleasant. The DB approach is for us to GAL which i believe is a good way to help us move forward from our sitch and improves our interacions with our H/W, supposedly.
M 39 H 41 T9 M6 EA found Dec 09 Separated Apr to Jun 10 Currently in house separation
