QS half your post is based on stuff your WIFE told you... You can't take that crap seriously...
The stuff from a wayward spouse is akin to the ridiculous stories teenage boys tell teenage girls so they will have sex with them :
If we don't have sex it will fall off.
If we don't have sex, I won't be able to love you.
If we don't have sex, I will end up in hospital.
if we don't have sex, you won't love me.
If we don't have sex, I will get migraines.
if we don't have sex, it will turn green.
All of it is BULLSHITE. It's an excuse to get something.
This HURRY to get OUT Of the house QS is a FANTASY of hers to escape how miserable she feels.
Teenagers do this to parents when they want to move out... They have this fantasy in their head abotu how cool it will be to live elsewhere and that it will make them happier... They end up broke, miseralbe, and frustrated if they rush out the door.
You need to STOP LISTENING to the CRAP she's telling you.
Your wife has attached HER misery to YOU.. That's ALL... And it will take several weeks of therapy to BREAK that attachment and have her gradually take ownership of it and STOP LYING and STOP RUNNING.
You need to slap yourself in the face and STOP taking her rejection SERIOUSLY...
That's your kryptonite right now QS ... You take everything your wife says and does to heart and at face value... You assume there's nothing beneath that at all...
As long as you are giong to believe someone with teenage mentality and act on their claims without second guessing them at all you are dead in the water.
