I feel that something needs to be said for communication's sake. This is my take on it.
Me: I want us to try to work on a relationship at some point in the future. No rush, no instant living together, nothing like that. But a chance at relationship restoration.
You: You want us to be friends only. You want to drop in on the baby and me at times to hang out. You also want me to support you in the pain of. . . our split? (I'm guessing that's what you meant by 'my life' yesterday.)
Nothing much has changed since January. You're saying the same thing, and so am I. I won't be friends with you. We're either civilly co-parenting the baby or trying to make "us" work. And to me, civil co-parenting does not involve friendship.
So, to further the co-parenting idea, I want to make sure this is all very clear.
Visitation times:
Sunday 2-6 Tuesday 8-9:30ish (whenever I return, I guess) Thursday 8-9:30ish
No discussion about topics other than the baby and logistics, unless you want to address the contents of this email.
To me, breaking up with me and then wanting me to listen to your pain about the break-up is not considering my feelings at all. (Especially because I'm the one who was cheated on, who carried the baby, and who now primarily raises her.) It is also a little frustrating to hear you use words that imply that this just happened, not that you made decisions that led to this point.
You know I love you, and I know you love me. I hope that we can use that to work this out.
See you on Thursday. (My mom may be there, I'm not changing her day.)
All right. Let me know if you think I should make changes, guys.
