WHY DO WE DO IT?

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It sure looks like it is just up to me to stay cool and hope for the best and plan for the worst, huh?

What about her family? Any pro-M folks there?

If I could go back and do things over completely, I'd have taken a tougher stance from the onset: expose, confront, tell my W that I can't live this way and even help her pack to move out, and then go pitch black.

You have kids, so that's tougher, but if you can find a responsible intermediary who won't bend your ear with talk of your spouse to handle exchanges regarding the kids, I now feel that would be best so that you can heal without getting to the point where you think Divorce is probably best before you are healed.

Does OM have a wife? If so, telling her is the right thing to do.

As for charity work, is there anything you can do WITH your kids? How about kid stuff like Scouts, etc?

The key to healing is going to be doing as little thinking about your W as possible.

You will have plenty of time when healed to ponder and learn from this experience. For now you need to reclaim your strength.