I don't have much time right now, but I will get back with you again. Respect is at the top of the list, IMHO. The way we women are wired....we cannot be sexually attracted to our H if we do not respect him as a man.
Being passive, trying to keep the peace by letting her have her way is NOT the way to gain her respect. She will continue to push your buttons.
You do not have to raise your voice or get physical or anything like that. You speak with a firm and controlled tone of voice. You look her dead in the eye as you speak.
I am going to give you the link to the thread discussing boundaries b/c this is one of the most important DB lessons to learn. Your W must respect the boundaries you set. Boundaries are not threats. Think about what you will not live with any longer and what the consequences for her will be if she breaks that boundary. If you set one.....you better back it up or all is lost.
