Coach, what do you think about this sitch though where the OM is actually her H? She never actually divorced him.
I think I mentioned this once before, their R simply cannot be looked at as a traditional marriage and the "tug" of that commitment actually being serious. It lasted less then a year and then no contact for 13 years after that. They were literally kids when they had the shotgun wedding. If you go back a page or two you'll see she has said she resents me for putting her in a position where she felt she had no choice but to go to him for help.
Call me delusional if anyone wants to, but I dont think she really wants to be there,but see's it as her only option right now. She CANNOT support herself or the kids, and the prospect of seeing her twins all the time ( as opposed to 1 weekend a month when we were together) being dangled or used as a lever, combined with her feelings about how much I hurt her made it "tolerable" in her mind, at least for now.
