Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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*Marriage ends. WS wants to be with OP more than they want to be with BS. 1% success rate for marriages that began as affairs. WS, BS, and OP all end up empty-handed.

Well I am guessing that the OP is probably out of the picture completely. She tried to play it off like she was using HIM.

But her online searches of "how to get a guy" say different.

However, I am starting to think the "other person" in this whole thing is *ANYONE BUT ME* (ABM). She is leaving me for ABM, and is having a fantasy with ABM.

I really like that term "Anyone But Me". Because it seems to describe her EXTREME desire to get out of the house and "move on" with her life. The Facebook guy was a reminder of simpler times in high school, and her first real crush. He just happened to be at the right place at the right time and made her feel good.

There are like 10 other guys in her past, or even now, that could be ABM. I can't fight and expose them all. But this last guy seemed to have special sway over her. Maybe crushing this EA will start a snowball effect.

I take hope from Puppy's story and how he said EVERYONE thought his wife was so far gone that she was in another dimension.

Because that is exactly where I am now. Her mom told me she called her crying and hysterical, saying how she couldn't live in this house anymore. She HAD to get out and away from me.

In her mind she says she realized she wanted a divorce about 18 months ago, but was too scared to lose the house, and what would happen in this process. She had several offers from that FB guy for an affair, but turned them down. Only when she realized that she was going through with this 100%, did she start the EA and want a PA.

It just terrifies me that she is actively looking for ABM. Maybe I am wrong and she really thought that this Facebook guy was going to be the one. She even wrote him that once she found out he was single again, she wished she could date him.

It was a God awful morning for me today. Getting out of bed was just too hard. But I DID IT and went to the gym.

It seems like everything in my life leads me down a certain path. Like where I am now in my house and the job I have. Maybe this all NEEDED to happen in order to kill a bad marriage and let a NEW, BETTER one begin.

I need to get Dobson's Love Must Be Tough. I have let the cage door open right now. And she is running hard. But like SR said, she may come to hard terms with her reality. I pray this to be true, and I take hope from Puppy and Allen.