I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

Romeo- waiting for that pic with a smile! Thanks for the advice and encouragement and I will wear a skirt tomorrow when I take in the car!

lol flowmom- not BIG girl? Ok just got off the phone with the zoo brew guy...he was up late and asked if I wanted to talk! So we talked for a couple of hours. At first I thought "damn it- why can't we talk tomorrow on the date? why do it all now?"

So zoobrew was 44 years old-- I thought he looked 39 or 40 when I saw him last. I was a little disappointed at first (10 years older could be a generational deal breaker, if you know what I mean).Luckily we liked several of the same bands. He also was rather serious at first. I told him my age and he said 30 was the youngest he would go and 46 would be the oldest. Holy crap- he hasn't seen Whatnow!! But I doubt he would guess her age anyway!;)

We started talking religion right off the bat! HIS choice of topic...but then I figured out that he was nervous. By the middle of the conversation, I was feeling intimidated because he grew up well to do, had a happy family growing up, was a good Catholic alter boy, was very "together..." he described some things about his ex wife that actually matched ME and he wasn't saying them in a complimentary way...

Well we talked surface level about our divorces,his wife CLEARLY had an MLC and he sort of guessed that stbxh cheated on me.I am not going to just come right out and say it! But surprisingly, it seemed to not phase him. I guess because it made sense why I have a 12 month old and am getting a divorce? Somehow it came out that we are being amicable and that I am not taking stbxh to the cleaners. He was very impressed with that and said it is amazing that I have been so "mature" about this all..that his lawyers encouraged him to do and say things that weren't helpful in hindsight.

He asked me if I had dated much and I said "nothing serious" and he said "and how has it been going?" YIKES! So I LIED and said "well not too horrendous but nothing spectacular" I didn't feel good about lying. But I was not about to tell him "you are my first date since my stbxh." I did let him know that my divorce just started but we had been separated for a long time previous. He said he had a few flings right after being divorced, then saw someone exclusively for a year and broke up in April. I didn't ask the particulars.


We are meeting tomorrow at 8:30 (PST) at this pub I hadn't been to, so of course I will report on it afterward.

Ok off to bed....S will be awake in 6 hours OR LESS!!