Dobson's original letter would look more like something like this: Well, first, before I even start, this letter would come after you'd been showing a different mindset - got W thinking about where your head is at - that somehow, you're different lately...
Dear WAS,
I have been doing a lot of soul searching lately given our current circumstances. It's funny how when you feel you are losing something that you love, you behave in ways that are not always pretty. I was so afraid of losing you that I tried everything to keep you here: I pleaded, begged, got angry - you name it. I see now that it was not productive - not good for you, or me. After thinking on it, I realize that love must be free. When we married X years ago, I did not twist your arm or have to talk you into it. You married me of your own free will. You say you no longer love me? That you don't think you could ever feel that way towards me again? Well, I find that disheartening but obviously, I have to let you go. The days of me putting up with anything just to keep you here are over.
W, when we married I saw myself being married to you forever, growing old, playing with our grandkids... Obviously that was my dream. I never wanted a divorce. But now you are running around with another man, destroying our family and saying you want out? Well, that's your choice. If you want out, then maybe it's best you find another place to live. Maybe with X. I will miss you but I am confident I will be fine. I know I made my mistakes in this relationship, but I know I have always been faithful, and been willing to do the work to repair the issues we've had.
W, I wish you the best as I know now what I want in a R and deserve to have. I still can't believe that something that was once so beautiful has turned into something sordid and jaded. Perhaps in the future if you find that you want to turn this around, we can talk and I will see how I feel then.
