Just got a message from her wanting to know if I'll be home after work because we need to talk.
ugh. There's the "need to talk" line. Here comes the big bomb.
Plus, I'm planning on meeting her parents after work...
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
I told her I have plans after work and will not be home. She basically responded. "great..."
I'm delaying an inevitable conversation that I don't feel prepared for yet.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
You have a right to deal with it when you are ready.
I feel the same way about my H I don't want to talk about the R right now, he got irritated but oh well the way I see it things aren't so great. I may be an XW soon so what do I care if I pissed him off he can only divorce me once. I gotta think about how I feel and how I get through this. As should you.
She is gonna do what she wants whether you sit down and talk or not. You have a right to say this is not what I want and I will not discuss this with you do what you feel is necessesary and put the ball all the way in her court. You don't have to be mean but you dont have to take part in the demise of your M either.
M37 H30 D1 S18 (previous relationship) M 1yr Bomb 6/25/10
I keep reminding myself I am strong even if I don't feel it. I know from my past this is true. I might just get a tattoo to remind me.
SG, I would just tell her if she' hasn't decided to be honest about her affair and do the work to repair the damage then you have nothing to say and hang up.
Right now there is nothing she is going to say that is of use to you. It's just going to be more negatives and threats and intimidation.
The BEST thing for you to do is NOT engage her because THAT is going to worry her MORE than if you confront her right now.
You need to get your ducks in a row as far as exposing this and blowing it wide open.. SHE is giong to want to keep this all quiet as possible... so, Don't allow that...
Blow it open and she will be under super stress to run damage control everywhere.
Keep HER on the run until you know she's stressed out tot he max... THEN you call HER and tell her YOU want to talk...
Just ignore invitations to talk unless she' sends you a ceasefire note in email or something.. in THAT case, post the note here and we can analyse for you...
Get a gang of support together, even your buddies from work and go to the OM's home and pay him a visit...
Go on the OFFENSIVE... this creep's been makin the moves on your wife for weeks in secret, you want him to know you are onto him now and HE needs to start watching his back.
I came home late and she was sleeping in the bed. When I walked in she asked if I was seriously going to make her sleep on the couch. I told her no and that she's welcome to sleep here and got into bed. She grumbled at that and got up to go to the couch after a few minutes.
I'm not sure it was the correct response, but I feel she put us in this position... She can have the couch, not me.
The meeting with her parents went as well as one could hope. They had no idea what's going on. She's supposed to be getting together with them tomorrow. This week will soon turn into something I'll never forget... Exposure to OM is in the works. It may involve her dad. Make it rain.
M34 W35 S5 S2 T10 M6 on/off over the years including her A Recently- Nov 2015 bomb Nov 2015-Feb 2016 Reconciling Feb bomb March-April Reconciling May - bomb Mid-May I tell her I'm done
