And btw... I've seen that letter sample that you posted above, previously. I like the more original Dobson letters better, but that's me. I wish I had the book with me... I hate having to wing it. I'll try though! Some of my email is based on Dobson letters. Obviously a lot of it is a lot more personal, but I was trying to be the right mix of loving and tough. These aren't the exact things you would say to your W, especially in an initial confrontation/letting go with her. But - I am hoping it at least shows a healthy dialogue that is open, honest, yet shows self respect. Had I been on here previous to the email I probably would have gone a little tougher, but I don't regret anything in the email.
Has it helped my situation? I think so. Things have gotten better, as I've said. H is no longer acting suspiciously but he is not fully committed to the M yet or to attending MC. He treats me well but yet still is withdrawn... It's a start. At least he is seeing the newer me and acknowledges my changes. However, there have been no ILYs since this email... not yet.
