I think I've been doing this wrong. I've been short; terse and unresponsive.
I'm giving her what she was running away from in the first place.
I've been missing the "lovingly" part of detached the whole time and believe I have pushed her even deeper at OM.
Her tone in the text made me feel pretty bad at the end. Though maybe SHE started feeling the guilts for being so hardball on my initial request.
I know, I know. Mindreading.
I need more detail and assistance on lovingly detaching because it struck me when my daughter spilled something. I said her name loudly and she got all quiet and said "Don't spank me"
So I sat on the floor and asked her to come sit with me. I told her that if she needs help to lift something to ask daddy. I'm not mad. Just say you're sorry"
THAT's how I need to be except for the touching?
But it seems a pretty emotional state, no?
i don't know anymore. but if W senses the anger or harshness in my words, she really back off. And I don't want that.
