21 years of marriage hanging by a thread

[Chuck66]

I know she is taking prescription Fioricet. Sheriff just came by and took her for a Polygraph. I'm not kidding! $9k is missing from her work. They asked if she ever had trouble with prescription meds and I told the about the ER visit. They said she told her boss she was going through a divorce and I cut her $ off and asked him if she could work more hours but at the convenience store too (she's in charge of all the corporate finances and now wants to work the register?)too. Then went downstairs to the C-store and bought everyone hamburgers. They thought that was odd since most never see her eat and she just said she needed money and now was buying. She told me she didn't do it and didn't need a lawyer and was supposed to take the Poly at 9:30 pm. And I split a $10k account in half with her. I told the Sheriff she has NO bills. Her car is paid for. I pay her insurance. Other than gas and clothes she has no bills and $5K. I said she spends about $200-300 per month total. She is quite frugal. Even with all the clothes buying she takes them all back.

She has also been playing the most depressing song over (When the Heartache Ends by Rob Thomas) over and over every night. Kind of like "The Shinning". She was playing that song tonight when the Sheriff and Deputy came to the door. Tonight included. I think she is in deep depression. I am worried about her. I'm Mr. Mom again tonight.

The rumor was he was teaching her more than guitar lessons.
The other one was a manager couldn't find OM for a couple of hours one night and she saw him coming out of my W's office. That's it. That's all I got to go by. That and she hugged him in April at the Bar wear he works 40 feet down the hall from her but she didn't know his GF was 10 feet away! Possible OM and GF had a big fight about it! If I had been in a bar and hugged a girl and my W walked in she would not have been pleased.

She drank half a bottle of wine last night. And had a bottle of beer tonight.

Don't know about the OM. I thought when the WS buys new bras etc it was when the EA was going to PA. Don't know about the M. She wouldn't do the missing $9k.

Bad question to ask if I'm done with the M. Depends on what hour of the day you catch me on. I don't want to be with someone who "is not sure I want to be with you." I want her to love me. Even in the best years there was never jump your bones kind of excitement. She's 5'8" and 105 lbs and is tough to cuddle. She's all elbows and knees. You can't make someone love you and I will always love her.

Chuck