I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[newmama]

ugh what the hell? Another incident just happened! The doorbell rang and 2 men wearing the same baseball cap with some kind of logo were on the porch. I always look through the peephole and don't open the door depending...

well since stbxh has requested some estimates for the yard, I thought maybe these guys had to do with that and he forgot to tell me.

So I open it and the man says "hi. Is your husband home?"
normally, due to being alone, I say "he'll be back later." so they don't think I live alone. Well this time I just said "no."

The guy tells me "well we want to do some cement work and it affects your property. Do you have a minute?"

Guarded, I reply "just a minute." (I have had people try to sell me on work in the past....)

Turns out, the man is my neighbor and the other guy is his dad, who owns the house next door. The tree roots messed up the sidewalk and they want to fix it at no cost to us. Is that ok?I say that I will need to check with stbxh...we are getting a divorce and he will be back soon to return my son. The neighbor says "I'm sorry. You just had a new little one, right?" He introduces himself and so do I.

So I say yes, he is a year old. Then I say that I will talk to stbxh tonight and if he says no, I'll let them know. Then I said that I am sorry that I haven't introduced myself earlier (like 5 years earlier). That I am a private person but I should know my neighbors!

hopefully that will explain why I was so guarded and bitchy!

But ughhh...it made me feel another example where basically,
I needed to defer to stbxh for something!!!!