New to this Community seeking advice

[JR09]

I called to chat with the boys tonight. At one point my S7 asked me if I wanted to talk to Mom. I resisted the urge and just asked him to give the phone to S11. It's been 3 weeks now since W and I haven't talked on the phone. I deliberately chose NOT to call W anymore.

I figured she told me once we may not be divorced on paper but she fells she is "already divorced in her mind". So I decided to not have any more contact over the phone. Trying to apply the NC technique. I read everywhere on this forum that the faster you detach, the better your chances of attracting your W back...

However, pretty soon, I'll have to call or email her because I need to find out the details about us linking up halfway so I can have the boys for two weeks. Shall I just email her or shall I call? My briefly reestablishing contact will probably reset the clock for the NC technique.

Insight anyone?

JR