WHY DO WE DO IT?

[navajo]

I have considered that and might look into it more. I still don't know how I should feel about looking for ways to spend more time away from my kids. My main fear is that they'll feel like BOTH parents are walking away.

On another note, how do I (or DO I) expose the A? My situation may be a bit different here. I have, of course told everyone in my family ( as well as taken some of the blame for the marriage cooling off the past couple of years) but as for her family, I tried to talk to her youngest sister (the one we both get along the best with) but she stopped me and said she has enough to deal with right now and doesn't want to hear any of it from me or her. Her middle sister is drunk by noon and passed out by dinner, her oldest sister never really liked me and doesn't speak to me much, her brother is in rehab for dealing drugs/dui, her mom passed and her Dad is very old and frail and seems to be showing signs of alzheimers.

As far as friends go, I have told our 2 mutual friends/families but as far as her friends, the only one local is the enabler she is living with and the rest of them are out of state and I have no way to contact them.

It sure looks like it is just up to me to stay cool and hope for the best and plan for the worst, huh?