This sounds good: just the fear of God text for now and let her sit on what's to come. BUT...a question here for the "experts" that I'm wrestling with:
Doesn't sending the text give W time to rationalize everything in her mind and justify (to herself and/or others) her actions? Won't it give her time to get her ducks in a row beforehand?
Just asking.
As for the confrontation and what's to come, well, I understand it's confusing. Each case is a little different and it all depends on circumstances and what you're comfortable with as to which approach to take next. I don't think they are all that conflicting, but it seems to me each thing has its emphasis.
From what I've read on the boards, some people oversimply Dobson's approach way too much. If you actually read his work (and I've read a lot of it, not just Love Must Be Tough) you truly get his whole perspective on relationships. The "letting go speech" is only one example he gives of tough love. I think Dobson would be fully on board with exposure even though it isn't something he discusses in LMBT. He recommends lots of good counsel for each situation and not just everyone going blindly with some "magic script" if that makes sense. (Not that others on these boards are advocating that - just want to make that point.)
