I tried, I changed, but still am getting divorced!

[ImprovedRomeo]

OK if WhatNow puts it that way...I'm all for a toolbelt NM!!

CG, STBXW knew the few basics when I met her. She grew up back east (Rochester,NY) and was a poor college student with an old beatup car. There were only a few mechanics that worked on those old cars so one of them took pity on her and showed her how to check a few things like toping-off the oil which was getting recycled by going back to the ground whenever she parked or out the tailpipe when she drove it.

Long story short, I've been an uber car nut all my life. She used to go to the race tracks with me when I was racing cars, she used to help me with any major car surgery in the garage etc. So in the process she not only learnt but also started enjoying the cars and appreciating them differently than before. She even joined a car club herself and enjoyed attending their gatherings etc.

So I guess in a round-about way what I'm saying is since I was the one that taught her all that I loved her for it. Same with the computers- so to me it's a turn-on and my fruits of love...but of course it'll be a turn off to some other guy because she posses that knowledge due to a 10 year history of ours.

In your case though since you're learning on your own to me that would be a big turn-on too. However, your neighbor does have a valid point...when women rely on us men we feel valued, we feel wanted, we want to be the rescuers, we want to fix stuff for you, we want to be your Popeyes, we like our girls to think we're the best guy on the planet for them. But that doesn't mean you can't possess skills. It's like me meeting a girl that knows how to ride bikes, that's awesome...well as long as she learnt it from her dad and not her previous boyfriend