Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

[Quicksilver264]

Thanks for the 2x4 Puppy.

I have been wallowing, and thinking of all the torturous things that can and might happen.

I re-read what SunnyD wrote about worrying about her WAH running into the arms of the OM, or another completely new man.

That is absolutely my biggest fear. Because I feel when a spouse as far gone as my wife does that, then there would be no hope of her ever coming back.

I don't know if I'd be up for going through a reconciliation process where having to deal with her having sex with other guys(s) is part of it.

I showed her the text she sent to me, and I could actually see the pain in her eyes. She tried to play it off like SHE was using HIM, but she definitely saw that she was PLAYED.

I am just happy she can't sex chat it up with the OM anymore. Maybe when she feels the pain of rejection from him, things will start rolling.

I am hurting yes, but I am not ready to give up. Maybe this is what is NEEDED in order to get some space between us, and show her I let go.

You yourself said that you'd go through periods like this. Well I have cried, and prayed, and cried some more. You all said how much this would hurt, and how BRUTAL it is. You even said HER parents told you that there was POSITIVELY NO HOPE for you and her right?

I so respect you for doing what you did in your sitch. You said you had to do it MULTIPLE times. Well this was my second time and it was God awful.

But tomorrow is a new day, and she is away on business anyway. She comes home Friday to "discuss" what my answer is to selling the house.

Maybe I will tell her that I'll agree to sell the house when I find a good agent, BUT I still want her to live with her friend.