Shiny, a pleasure as alwasy and Yanni thanks for stopping by

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I also like the idea of turning it on him and asking why he wants to know....and if he hedges YOU can be the one with the "Whys?"



I think I know why H is asking "why" and I don't want to say it in a way that would hurt his feelings. I never took his feelings into consideration before this all happened and would shoot off my mouth, just assuming H didn't have any feelings. But they were so well hidden that when I realized his pain, it was too late.
My H's feelings go deeper than H let's on, I know that now and even though H has hurt me I don't want to hurt H anymore..does that make sense? So Shiny I think I'll go with your response or a version thereof.

I knew H was stopping here before he headed north, just ASSumed it would be after work and that he would only be here a few minutes. After H not showing up right after work, I had the feeling that he might have stopped for some drinks and thought I don't want to be here when he gets here and also thought I'm not going to wait just becuase I know H is coming. So S and it went out to do our thing. H called me on my cell phone wanted to know where I was told him and then where I was going. H then said I said I was coming here, I said I figured it would be right from work and H said I never said that...which is true. H is on his own schedule and always has been. He then asked about some checks that were supposed to be FedExed. I said they haven't got here yet, maybe they'll come in the morning I'll be here then. Right away H says "where will you be in the afternoon?" Man he doesn't miss a beat does he? I said I think FedEx only delivers in the morning. The thing is I am not going to be here tomorrow morning and don't know why I even told H I was going to be...oh well.

All of H's mail for the week was here, which he took with him except two pieces. One piece, in plain site, is from his doctor's office saying that he should have his blood pressure checked regularly, that it's high...H left if for me to see. He hadn't been to the doctor since this all happened. I made an appt. for him to go just recently. Another was a Xmas card from his parents with a check in it, which H left here..hmmm.

So when I saw the mail, I just smiled, the guy doesn't know if he's coming or going does he? He called me back again before I left work and was a totally different person from the original phone call. Even though H always says no when I ask him to do things, I'm going to keep asking, with no expectations. I mean when a guys really like a woman and asks her out, and is rejected, does he quit asking, no, he keeps asking. Guys have to go through the rejection thing a lot more than woman do, so now it's my turn to feel what it's like to be rejected for a date. I'll just keep asking him and asking him, eventually he'll give in, if only just to get rid of me....but I don't think that will happen.

Cathy