QS, i think you know most if not all of that is crap.
She's angry, that's a given... She's gonna be angry...
You need to ask yourself this :
Would things have gotten any better if I HADN'T exposed and just let her type away to other men night after night?
Exposure isn't about winning your partner back. Exposure is about winning your dignity and self-respect back.
Once you have that, you CAN fight for a marriage. You can't fight for a marriage while your spouse is treating you like a doormat. You know that. It's not sexy or attractive.. And it won't get you were you want to be.
When infidelity starts you have two routs to go here :
a. Let my wife walk all over me and the marriage is out the door b. Win your self-respect and the marriage can go ether way
Once your wife decides to disrespect you and TEAMS UP with a third party to bully you and your dignity covertly over the PC night after night you have to decide what's most important to you :
a. Your dignity b. Your wife
You can lose b, I know it's hard, but you gotta be prepared to roll the dice on that...
YOu can hand her your balls on a platter if you want. She may just run off and have sex and have a whild time beating your confidence senseless for three years or more and after THAT she MIGHT come back to you... But do you REALLY think she's gonna have respect for you after beating you to a pulp month after month?
This is BULLYING here and you have to deal with it ... You can stand there and be bullied or you can speak up for yourself and deal with the consequences.
SeeingRed's thread is a great example of this... She's been fighting for three years.. Her Husband has done a SERIOUS number on her... And even KNOW after waiting for over THREE YEARs she's STILL not sure if her H is gonna come back or pursue OW into marriage to keep her around...
You STOPPED her from disrespecting you in your home. That is more important and THAT was the objective.
If she or her mother says something at this point you just have to respond :
"I stand by what I did. I will not be ridiculed in my own home. That is incredibly disrespectful and you can do a hell of a lot better. I am being a civlized adult here and I expect the same. If it isn't offered then I am going to pursue it until I have it. No one should be bullied in their own home. You had the walk of the hosue here and complete civility by me. You abused that to disrespect me and to lie to me. I am NOT going to be your doormat or anyone's doormat."
