Holy cow! Ok from the top. Puppy, It did have paragraphs. Spell checked too. Only, I did it at work in word and pasted it in. I sit in a cubicle farm so had to be discrete. Unfortunately it didn't translate right. I should have read it again. Not sure how to edit it. Maybe I'll repost it.
Rob, thanks for the attention. I will read it over and over until it all sinks in. Several points I need to clarify and also some questions.
One. I did sound very bitter. I am probably no more so than many of our bretheren here. This is really the first time I have laid it out there and I guess I really vented. Typically I'm a pretty happy person. The boys have not been subjected to negativity out of me. I'm very careful to keep an even keel with them. I have been playing more games and taking them places more than usuall though.
Really, the respect thing is something I hadn't thought of. I have been a wus with the wife forever. Maybe that's why she takes my standing up as being a jerk. Oh well it is what it is.
I was always an atheletic guy. I am definately overweight, but cary it pretty well. I am DEFINATELY not stopping until I'm rock hard. I eat a ton of fiber and have for years. Adding veggies and watching myself on weekends. So that's no problem.
Tanning is out. I spend as much time outside as possible and am a redhead so all I'll get is burned and it'll be money I don't want to waste.
Hair is fine. Actuall changed do's last time to the barber. Not really suffering from age. Always thought it was in the attitude anyway. Always felt like a young guy.
There's not an actuall list. Yet. I just committed it all to memory and have been working on it. Now, tomarrow is our next session and she tells me she's been working on an actual list. As much as I trust your judgement there, I can't WAIT to see what she's going to spring. So I'm going at least once more.
About this life getting. My question is: was my original thinking about the importance of providing some consistancy for the boys misguided. I don't doubt for a minute that I'll have plenty of time to go out and that it will be alot of fun. I just don't want to reduce their sense of security any further. Would golfing count? Or does it need to be at night?
I think that's it. Please advise.
ADAPT. OVERCOME. IMPROVISE. -Tom Highway
Me: 43 W: 40 S12 & S9 Married 17yrs Together 20yrs