Just found out she already filed

[newmama]

Hmmm...if you go ahead and help her here is what you must ask yourself:

Am I doing this just to help her with no other strings attached, even if she responded the way she did about the flip flops?

(grrr!)

Then I think you help her out.

Kat is advising you not be her rescuer...that is a good point. But we are doormats only if we allow it. If you always run to her rescue, then she will depend on you to help her and you will get stuck (possibly) in a cycle. But if you help her sometimes and not with everything....well that helps to prevent a cycle, right?

Like you suggested she look on craigslist without just giving her the modem. That seemed like helping without being too cold or self sacrificing. ARGHH! I am so sorry that I can't put this into better words! It would help me, too, with my sitch!!