She has ripped my guts out TWICE and is dancing on them. How to keep that positive friendly demeanor while you do this. Every time I stand up for myself, which is becoming more frequent, she gets REALLY angry. She says I’m being a dick and she might be right. I hope not. I want the kids to see me take the high ground. I just don’t know how to do it.
She will continue to rip your guts out as long as you lay down and let her. You (the man) decide how she will treat you. She will push you only as far as "you" allow.
What would you tell your son if he came home from school and told you some bully was picking on him? Well....that's exactly what you have right under your roof. Show your children how a man is suppose to deal with a bossy wife!
She gets angry? She gets angry! OMG....the whiny baby men I hear on this board that is scared to death of the W's anger! What is the deal? So she gets angry, so what? Does she beat you up or something? Does she set the place on fire? Again.....YOU ARE THE MAN, start behaving like you have a pair! No wonder she is walking all over you.
She cannot be attracted to you as long as she can boss you around. You should have been told that before you were M, but I've about decided men don't get those "talks" anymore. Okay, so pretend I'm your mamma......."Stop letting her wear the pants". Sure women want to wear the pants....and we will if we have a chance, but mark it down, we won't want to have sex with the person who is put on the dress, either.
In case you haven't figured it out....you will never live up to her list, b/c she will continue to add to it. She is expecting you to be a loser so she will have her excuse to leave. I think I could tell you what would change that, but you've got to start thinking like a winner first.
It is not about what you feel should work in your M. It is about doing the work that gets the right results. Do what works!
