Just Confronted - A Litttle Confused

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first be still and take a deep breath I know what you are feeling stop visualizing her having sex with other men that is only torturing yourself.

Second take the focus off of her and what she is, can and may or may not be doing. You need to put the focus back on you.... seriouly or your gonna fall apart and fail at this. Trust me this will not kill you, I know this first hand.

Now what do you want to do with the house, with or without her can you afford it do you want it ect. All hope is not lost just because she is not in the house but you falling apart and turning into a puddle of mush is not going to help and it is unatractive especially to her right now. If you must fall apart do it in private.

If you dont want to sell the house by all means tell her. Dont fear this she is counting on your fear to propel her strength and control of the situation. You can let her know you are not in approval of her getting her own place BUT if she must then you wont hold her back.

It's been my personal experience that my H's weakness is my strength and vice versa strange as it sounds it's like a dance we've gone back and forth.

Your strength will cause her to be weaker maybe angry yes but weaker none the less because she totally expects you to react negatively and emotionally to all of this. Get strong even if ya fake it to her face and see how she reacts pissed yes, but eventually you will see some lack of control on her part.

Your gonna have to let go for this to play out to your benefit if you hold on too tight will run fast and far!!