i'll give a bit of an update on where the legal battle is now. our financial statements have been completed. he received mine first. his lawyer drafted a bunch of questions for us (me & lawyer) to address. along with that was his financial statement. that was received back in may. it is now july. my lawyer hasn't finished reviewing his yet. i have and i have sent my laundry list of questions and answers to his questions.
i am trying to reach the family law office in the city to determine what the procedure is for filing for d. i tried to fill out the forms over the weekend and one of the issues that has to be covered is the separation agreement (which is still currently under review). i need to clarify if this has to be completed before one files for divorce. i was under the impression that i could file at any time during separation. i need not wait until the 1 yr mark. the judge won't grant a divorce until the 1 yr mark has passed but at least i could get the paperwork in the system.
i read your speech and i have to say, i need practice. because my version of that speech is full of digs at him. "did you come with your mommy? or are we conferencing them in because you can't make a f*king decision without their hand up your a$$ like a puppet?" "it's obvious that you don't want to work on our m because you much rather spend your time hooking up with as much trash as you can before it stops working." "i'm moving ahead and filing because i'm not the procrastinator between the two of us." "my lawyer will have a response to your financial statement as soon as he stops laughing at it."
**breathe, d .. breathe **
here we go with the endless possibilities .. what if he has nothing to say? if he says no, there's nothing left to say. do i get up and walk out?
the main reason why i won't file is finances. i didn't want to pay for the divorce to begin with. but cost of divorce vs. peace of mind? to quote my h .. "it's a small price to pay".
