I am just so confused. I just wish we had something to try to "get back"....you know how people say, "we need to get our romance back"....we just don't have anything to go back to.

I just keep thinking that if we were unable to get it back after all of these years and after a reconciliation and what we went through...what will?

I'm going to try to bring this up very pointedly in our next counseling session and see what she says.

Is there anyone out there that feels like something was missing from the start? And, I mean the ones that are not in a fog.....not off of an affair and rewriting history, but really feel as if there was something missing from the start.....anyone?

M 39
H 39
1 son, 7

Multiple affairs before/during/and after separation, came clean, went to Retrouvaille, forgave each other, Piecing for over a year, same problems exist, back to counseling