Just found out she already filed

[newmama]

It's up to you, Romeo. Hard ass approach "call up _&_ and they can help you." Helpful ex husband approach is to help her with it.

I was talking to a friend of mine about my boundaries with stbxh but stopped because I realized she has no clue- no divorce anywhere in her family and I told her that I don't think she could relate. She said it reminded her of the line in the movie, "It's Complicated" where Meryl Streep said something about how we never learn how to be divorced. I post this here in your thread because we have to make up the rules....plenty of opinons out there on how to co parent and how to be married but how to interact with your ex about non children issues (especially when you still love them???) who knows!

I don't know how much I can ask my stbxh to help when I truly need the help.

But, I have always been an advocate of the golden rule. So my opinion is to help her. Hey, wouldn't you still help her while you had a girlfriend?