Shes off today and tomorrow before her illicit getaway so I'll be keeping tabs and trying to keep my job. May call the GM and ask for "personal days' cause I may need them. But don't want to use them up too early.
I'm gonna need an attitude fine-tuning and script assistance as I have three major events this week.
Mon-Tues -Opening personal bank account -Getting W to sign Permission for me to take D on vacation July 24-31 -getting W to sign agreement to move personal possesions from house (NOT suggestin all; just two)
WED- Texting Infidellus Interruptus******
Thurs-Sat -Delayed reading (and posting) off all recieved texts and Vmail. NO RESPONSES UNLESS ENCHANTER APPROVED. -Exposure of A at her work. Possibly with two male friends of hers tht I know and are married. I'm hesistant to "call" her mom or aunt because they are both in the region with her. And I would like to start with her mom-in person. I will try to expose to his parents -Move all my non-essential possessions to storage
Sunday- The Confrontation will happen! - My Acknowledgement of her A (with no evidence shown) - ONCE- "I love you and Divorce is my LAST option" - A must stop -You have shown you have places to stay so I suggest you make them full time until you stop the A. -Calla will stay here as it is unhealthy for her to be exposed to the A. You can visit her here by appt. -If you won't stop the A, I will. -Here (prepared in advance) is the banking arrangement. -I have made an appt with a mediator regarding a Sep Agreement.
Mon- Confront OM at his work. Not sure if I should directly in front of W
That's as far as I am prepared.
ALL THE HELP I CAN GET, PLEASE.
Sounds like a pretty darn good plan to me, overall. On the Mon/Tues: Do you really have to get W's "permission" to take D on vacation? I'd like to see that attitude more of an agreement and not permission. Maybe not a big difference in a literal sense, but mentally. I know nothing of the legalities of any of this so I cannot say much here. I also don't know particulars of exposing so Allen and PDT are much better for you in this area but it all sounds like good stuff from what I've read of theirs.
I think your script for the confrontation is important. I can possibly help there as I'm pretty good with words and finding the balance between love and tough.
Just prepare yourself mentally for ANYTHING: any kind of response you are going to get thrown at you and how you are going to respond accordingly. If you're a praying man - pray a lot.
It was suggested several pages back to send an "Infidelus Interruptus" text as they went out of town. Along the lines of "W, I hope it's worth it. We'll have some things to dicuss briefly when you return. You'll be suprised at the changes here" And go completely dark.
My original plan was to give a Dodson Gucci just before she drove off Wednesday am but her inconsistencies in being home would make that difficult. Plus, I'm not sure where they will depart from or it could even be Tuesday night. I have my D this week and don't want her around for it.
I'm going to think about this from the Dobson perspective and then get back to you. (I've read the Dobson book at least 5 times in my life!) His point of view is very similar to Allen's approach for the most part but doesn't go into specifics about exposure, etc... Dobson likes things in writing so that the WS can read it and re-read it.
That's the exact reason I thought of the Dobson via text or her email.
So "they" could pour over it all weekend and it would also serve to be an Interruptus.
It might also give me the opportunity to speak with her mom and aunt by phone (again, rather talk to her mom in person) so that they will notice OM is mysteriously NOT with her when she vists with them and that (I'm sure) her visits will be short.
And don't forget they could also ask "Where is D?" Of cours she will say it's "his" week but we know I would have let her have Calla (if not for OM)
Incidentally, I WILL take D to see her aunt in BC when I go a week later. Aunt LOVES D.
Here is Puppy's original excerpts from p.38 ********************************* "Originally Posted By: Callasdad
Now gotta nail down the content.
Hmmm. ********************************
My suggestion, humbly submitted:
"I hope it's worth it, (Wife's first name). You underestimate me. Enjoy your weekend, because there'll be plenty to talk about and get in order when you get back. I think you'll find that things have changed here. - (Your First Name)" The full comfrontation and exposure come when she returns. The purpose of THIS little gambit is short and sweet:
RUIN THEIR WEEKEND, as they are planning on using it to destroy your family. -Puppy
