Not a letter per say. She had told him in person and by text.
As for changing the number, no dice. It IS used for us for a business. Even if I change the number, OM can just find the new one thru the web. It is advertised. I really can't afford to purchase another phone or anything of that nature.
Predator = enemy or threat to my family. If anything can I contact OM?
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
I had checked the logs thru the weekend. I see 4 text to each other on Sat. Which I asked W, Since you broke off contact, has OM contacted you. She was honest and said yes. He text me good morning and ask what I was doing. I (W) replied that I was working and do not want to talk. I told W that it was good.
This is where you lost it. NO!!!!
Your reply should have been "Why is OM still contacting you to say 'good morning'?? Did you tell him to stop contacting you, and that you were working on your marriage? You need to send him a no-contact letter, so we can work on us, without his interference."
I TOLD you this couldn't be done incrementally. You're rapidly losing your leverage, and this is what happens when you don't do it the correct way.
I had checked the logs thru the weekend. I see 4 text to each other on Sat. Which I asked W, Since you broke off contact, has OM contacted you. She was honest and said yes. He text me good morning and ask what I was doing. I (W) replied that I was working and do not want to talk. I told W that it was good.
This is where you lost it. NO!!!!
Your reply should have been "Why is OM still contacting you to say 'good morning'?? Did you tell him to stop contacting you, and that you were working on your marriage? You need to send him a no-contact letter, so we can work on us, without his interference."
I TOLD you this couldn't be done incrementally. You're rapidly losing your leverage, and this is what happens when you don't do it the correct way.
Puppy
Yeah, I see. I'll get her to write a letter. Put the brakes on before it gets out of control.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
No, stop the car, open her door and put her out if she doesn't agree. This stuff is non-negotiable.
M22,H45,W45 S21/18D12 Retain faith that you will prevail in the end, regardless of the difficulties and at the same time confront the most brutal facts of your current reality, whatever they might be.
No, stop the car, open her door and put her out if she doesn't agree. This stuff is non-negotiable.
I understand. I already explained it, I will not tolerate this behavior.
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
Yes. It was short and to the point. Do not contact me as, I plan on working my marriage out. I don't recall the exact words, everything was deleted afterwards. If I see OM contact her again, I will tell W that she needs to send him this again, and that OM better respect this. You (OM) are now blocked from all my (W) email.chats, and phone.
Can I get involved and confront OM if he does not respect her wishes?
Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
I'm not a fan of the move, as it only elevates them in importance, but if you do, maybe ALL FOUR of you (is he married? can't remember), or if not, all 3 of you, sit down in a public place so that there are NO misunderstandings.
No his W left him a while ago from what W tells me.
OM lives in Oklahoma, a good 7-8 hours away. *edit* I didn't think OM would care even if I contacted him. Other wise I would of did it already.
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Me 31 Wife 34 (Step)D 15 /(Step)S 13 / D 6 Married 3/3/01 Separated 6/4/10 Bomb 6/14/10 Served 6/22/10 EA/PA Discovered 7/5/10 Now Back Together 8/1/10
No his W left him a while ago from what W tells me.
OK, so you've asked someone with a vested interest in the situation, who's already lied to you about it, for the truth about OM's marital status . . . .
