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If I start talking about "maybe", then I start wondering how the things I'm doing now will affect the make-believe future I have with him.

^^^^^I can totally see your point

You can tell others..and yourself...that you are living your life for yourself..and making decisions for yourself....however...

It is like having a life preserver (the "maybe")...do you really learn how to swim if you have that to grab on to?

Perhaps some people do...but the temptation to grab that life preserver is too high for most people. IMO