Did you mean I have no idea of what type of novel to write on the boards. Sorry just messing with you PEI.
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We feel like we *know* each other, we make assumptions and jump to conclusions. We read into posts and comments and form ideas and opinions on the stuff we see. Be careful with that. Just sayin’.
I do not think any of us jump to conclusions. We only have what you post as a point of reference. Personally, it is why I threw out my story for all to see. The more everyone knows of who I am the better the advice can be. Just sayin….
The anger…
I understand that you are tying to control those emotions. Yep I get it. What I would caution you on is that THE ANGER must come out. It must. It must be released for your real healing to begin. As hard as it may be…let out that anger. Sometime we think we are changing our behavior because we are not screaming and kicking anymore – maybe this is a behavioral change – maybe it is not. Only YOU really know for sure.
The peace that you may be feeling may be YOU suppressing the anger. Suppressing it will not help YOU in the long run. Trust me when I tell you, it will rear its ugly head in the future and this is what you want to avoid. For me personally, I suppressed it for a while. I tried not the deal with it and then I realized that when I do suppress the anger, it eventually slips out. It slips out in the interactions with my W. It slips out at work. Some time subtle but out it come none the less. So please PEI…make sure you deal with the anger. IMO – it takes a LONG TIME. It does not happen overnight.
In terms of your choice to stand or not stand – it is a very personal one. As someone once told me..whatever you do…make sure you do it with NO REGRET.
PEI – I remember when you first arrived. I do. You seemed like you had it together. You seemed like you had a plan, a plan that you were executing on perfectly. Then overnight…it appeared..the plan changed. This is what concerns me. It concerns me not so much for you but for the kids. I too have 3 children and the choice to stand or not stand is one that should not be taken lightly. I am not here to tell you want to do. It’s not my life. It is your. Personally, take the “standing” out of the equation. Take the words out of the mix..then…continue to be the best you can be. Let your H decide what he wants to do. We all make mistakes. You, I, your H, my W. Everyone. It is how we deal with the mistake that help to show us who we are.
I will leave you with this…..a very, very simple phrase. “No regrets”. Whatever you do “No regrets”. If you are not 100% sure, then do nothing. Sometimes nothing is actually more than we think. Do overanalyze, do overthink, just be…be still…
Finally, I felt the same way about the “you pulled me through song”…the same way.
God Bless, Eric
"The difficulties of Life are intended to make us BETTER,not bitter". "Fear is a prison, where you are the jailer. FREE YOURSELF!" "Life is usually all about how you handle Plan B." - Jack3Beans
