Thank you CW & SA - I had a good weekend. Well had to work some, the deadline is this week...also did some gardening, cut the grass (yuk) cleaned the pool...you know the weekly chores. But had some nice time on Saturday...played tennis with my friend and the went over to her place for a glass of wine (only one...driving)and some nibbles...chatted until midnight.

My FIL called me, he is taking this so hard...he still can't believe that my H would do this, said that he tries not to think about it because it upsets him too much and affects his heart condition.

He just can't comprehend how H could do this to me and to D...after so many years of happiness. He said I can see how an affair could happen in marriage....but to leave your marriage, for it????

I told him (gently) my side of the story, absolutely not blaming husband, just information of what happened in the past year. He was also "fishing" to see if it was me that told H to leave because of the affair...I said no, I wanted to work through it...this was H's choice. Asked me if I think this is final. I said that I don't know...H seems to behave that way.

FIL knew that H is in Europe, but didn't know it was with OW...he was shocked.

I also found out that H told FIL that OW & her Husband and kids are moving back to this city. I know for a fact that her H has no intention leaving his job and moving. So is that the big plan? They are hoping that H is eventually going to move back here with the kids? What if he doesn't? Is she going to move here anyway...and leave her kids 1,000 miles away? Just nutty....

My FIL also said that he doesn't want to loose a son over this....letting me know that no matter how much he may disapprove, H is still his son and he loves him...He told me that he just wishes that we could all come to dinner as we always did...that he will miss that....I'll miss it too.

Told him that I will come and see him with D after I come back from visiting my mom.

OK back to work smile

M53 H54 D17
M33Y T38Y
Bomb OW 09/09
OUT 10/09 BACK 11/09 OUT 01/10
WANTS TO R 04/10 BACK with OW 05/10
Wants to Reconcile 05/11 I said NO